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Why ?
The question of why I had an affair is ever present with us, as with all couples I imagine. We both need to understand why this happened in order that we can look to prevent it happening again (I’ve seen … Continue reading
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Holidays (or “vacation” !!)
I know my wife’s blogged on this too – we were both typing the same things ! Today is the last day of work for me – and the last day of school for the kids. Tomorrow is good Friday … Continue reading
Shamed in the presence of the in-laws
We went away for a night at the weekend – and my wife’s sister (T) and her husband (R) kindly looked after our kids. They’ve been very supportive over the last 6 months – looking after the kids a few … Continue reading
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6 months on
It’s been 6 months since D-Day and its inevitable that we’d blog on this today. (Fyi, I’m writing this from my perspective – not suggesting that I’ve had it anywhere near as bad as my wife – but she’s covered … Continue reading
“If it’s offered to you, you’ll do it again”
Last night Mrs B said to me that “it’s not complicated, you were offered sex and you took it. If it was offered to you again, you’d do it again” I’m not exactly in a position to argue as I … Continue reading
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Sticks & Stones
In the UK we have an old phrase “sticks and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me”. Put another way, physical things can hurt, words can not. How wrong that is. During the weeks before I … Continue reading
Split personality ?
Split personality ? This morning, Mrs B found an email she’d sent me in Aug 2012. I was working downstairs and she sent me a mail asking me to get her a cup of tea. I duly made it and … Continue reading
What if I forgive myself first ?
I was reading SLH’s blog yesterday and her post ” A different kind of apology” (see http://www.mybelovedismine1.wordpress.com/2013/03/13/a-different-kind-of-apology/) I asked SLH a question about this : Hi SLH. You’ve commented on my blog a few dozen times, so I thought I … Continue reading
I never thought …..
We were discussing my wife’s post earlier – and she used the phrase “you never thought about anything” and it gave me the subject for my post. It’s true to say that I didn’t think things through. I gave no … Continue reading
Online chat – but just with women
We went to couples counseling today and started to discuss the fact that both of us have allowed online chatting to go too far and have kept aspects of that chat secret from each other. Today we started to discuss … Continue reading
Saving our marriage 